How Do You Choose a Nursing Home? A Guide to Finding the Right Fit
Choosing a nursing home for yourself or a loved one is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make. Beyond finding a facility that provides quality medical care, you’re choosing a place where someone will spend their days, build relationships, and feel at home.
The process can feel overwhelming, but asking the right questions—and knowing what to look for—can help you make a confident decision.
Start by Thinking About Location
For many families, location is one of the first considerations.
A nursing home that’s close to family and friends makes regular visits easier, helping residents stay connected to the people who matter most. Frequent visits can also help family members stay involved in their loved one’s care and notice changes over time.
If your loved one has a strong support network nearby, staying close to home may improve both emotional well-being and quality of life.
Consider the Size of the Facility
Not every nursing home feels the same.
Some people enjoy larger communities with more activities and opportunities to socialize. Others feel more comfortable in a smaller, quieter setting where it’s easier to get to know staff and fellow residents.
Think about your loved one’s personality.
- Do they enjoy meeting new people?
- Do they prefer smaller, more intimate settings?
- Would they benefit from a busy calendar of activities or a quieter environment?
There isn’t a right or wrong answer—only the best fit for the individual.
Observe Staff Interactions
The people providing care often make the biggest difference.
During your visit, spend time simply watching how staff interact with residents. Ask yourself:
- Are staff members friendly and respectful?
- Do they greet residents by name?
- Do they make eye contact and engage in conversation?
- Are residents treated with patience and dignity?
You can often learn more by observing everyday interactions than by listening to a presentation.
Ask About Staffing Levels
Adequate staffing is essential for quality care.
Staff shortages continue to affect many nursing homes across the country, making it important to ask how the facility maintains safe staffing levels.
Questions to ask include:
- What is the staff-to-resident ratio during the day?
- What about evenings and overnight shifts?
- Are certified nursing assistants (CNAs) available around the clock?
- How often does staff turnover occur?
Consistent staffing helps residents build trust and familiarity with their caregivers.
Watch for Resident Privacy and Independence
A quality nursing home should respect each resident’s privacy and encourage independence whenever possible.
As you tour, notice whether staff:
- Knock before entering resident rooms
- Wait for permission before entering
- Help residents only as much as needed, encouraging independence when appropriate
- Speak respectfully and directly to residents
These small interactions often reflect the culture of the facility.
Review Meals and Nutrition
Meals are about more than nutrition—they’re an important part of daily life.
Ask:
- Are meals prepared on-site?
- Can residents choose between menu options?
- How are dietary restrictions handled?
- Are snacks available throughout the day?
- Can family members join residents for meals?
If possible, visit during mealtime to observe the dining experience.
Check State Inspection Reports
Every nursing home is inspected regularly.
Reviewing inspection reports can help you understand whether the facility has recurring issues or has consistently met state requirements.
You can also ask the administrator how concerns identified during inspections have been addressed.
Talk With Residents and Families
One of the best sources of information is the people who live there.
If appropriate, ask residents or visiting family members about their experiences.
Questions might include:
- Do staff respond promptly when help is needed?
- Is communication with families clear?
- Are concerns addressed respectfully?
- Would they recommend the facility?
Their firsthand experiences can provide valuable insight.
Know Where to Turn if You Have Concerns
If you have concerns about the quality of care at a licensed nursing home, home for the aged, or adult foster care home, Michigan’s Long-Term Care Ombudsman Program can help.
Ombudsmen advocate for residents, help resolve concerns, explain residents’ rights, and work with facilities to improve care.
If you’re unsure where to start, AgeWays can connect you with your local Long-Term Care Ombudsman and other resources to help you make informed decisions.
Choosing With Confidence
No nursing home is perfect, but asking thoughtful questions and taking time to observe the environment can help you find the right fit.
Remember that you’re evaluating more than a building—you are looking for a community where your loved one will be treated with dignity, compassion, and respect every day.
If you’d like help understanding long-term care options or finding resources in southeast Michigan, the AgeWays Information & Assistance Resource Center is here to help. Call 800-852-7795 or visit AgeWays.org.